Patience is something I've been blessed with an abundance of(in my adult life at least...lest my mother die of laughter) I love working with children which within itself requires immense patience, my own little one alone takes more patience than I ever thought I had, but I dig deep and always find more patience when I need it. I have a learning disorder that requires tons of patience with myself, but I seem to have managed even without medication for the last few years, it hasn't by any means been easy but I've done it. In January of 2009 I gave a talk as the new Relief Society Secretary on something I felt I needed improvement and that was faith and trust in my Heavenly Father's plan for me and my family. Since that talk...I endured months of endless severe sickness. Elizabeth was sick the entire month of march and ended up hospitalized for a week struggling for air and very high fevers. April Tony was laid-off. May Elizabeth started developing a twitch that in June was often enough that it sent us to the ER and through July it was looked at by a few different doctors and had a few different tests done to determine it was simply an unexplainable twitch. September we started dealing with what we thought was lazy eye. November I miscarried. December Elizabeth got glasses, and we were told that she didn't actually have lazy eye that it wasn't the muscles it was neurological. March she had eye surgery. Now we wait on what her birthmark has in store for us(though I hope and pray everyday for once it's just nothing!) And through it all I've maintained my patience with myself and my Father in Heaven and His plan for me. But in one thing I started slipping. As June is now only one month away and we plan family pictures that I was planning on doing with my new family of four the reality is hitting me hard, that picture of four won't be happening anytime soon. I told myself when I miscarried back in November that I would be fine, it wasn't so much the miscarriage I find hard to deal with it's more the fact that there will be no baby coming in a few weeks, I told myself something I thought was safe to say...that I would be fine come June because I would be pregnant again...safely beyond 12 weeks pregnant by then. Well here it is days away from May and that is definitely not going to be the case, the best I can hope for is to be pregnant at all by the time our new baby was to arrive. It's literally physically painful to see pregnant women especially ones as far along as I would be. To hear of babies even being due in June. I want another baby so badly it does hurt immensely sometimes.
And then as I listened to President Uchtdorf's talk "Continue in Patience" I realized I had broken my promise to my Father in Heaven, and myself. And worse I hadn't even realized it. The adversary is so sly and so cunning he'd slipped right in and I wasn't any the wiser. My first instinct was of course to tell myself I'd failed and be all dramatic(ok maybe Lizabeth does get it from me) and that I wasn't worthy, or good enough and yada yada, but you know what they say fool me once shame on you fool me twice...so I stopped the thought process immediately. My Heavenly Father would never have me feel this way! He loves me!! He knows what's best for me and even my small still family of three! He has sent us the most beautiful baby girl who is ever growing into an amazing little girl, and I love her so very deeply! She is such a HUGE blessing that I should never take for granted. I have an absolutely wonderful husband who I'm blessed to be sealed to for time and all eternity. Whom I also love with everything I have and he in return loves me the same, which I also should never take for granted! It was my plan and mine alone that we should have another baby in 2010...obviously not my Heavenly Father's. I pray to Him everyday for another baby...when the time is right. I let him know that I was ready months ago so I'm just waiting on Him. Not so. He is as always waiting on me. I would never claim to know better than my Father in Heaven yet that's pretty much what I was doing. I lost patience and with it my hope and faith in His eternal plan for me. Thank goodness for repentance! And being able to start anew! I told Tony not too long ago I didn't think I could handle June not being pregnant but maybe I need to...just as I needed to endure months of sickness, seeing my precious daughter in the hospital, hearing our main source of income was no more, or that I was indeed going to loose a pregnancy I wanted so badly. If you'd have asked me a year and a half ago if I could handle all that and more in such a short time I'd have laughed in your face and screamed NO WAY!! But I did and I am only the stronger and better for it. And for this I will be too. I need these tests and trials to become better because I learn so much from each one, from this one I learned unconditional continual patience, which is just one of the many things I need to master to reach my mortal goal of becoming more like my Father in Heaven. I've said it before and I truly do believe He is molding me into the women He needs me to be and that I too need and can be if I just let trust in and follow Him.
If you didn't hear President Uchtdorf's talk please listen to it, I truly believe there is a message for all of us in it, there most definitely was for me!
(if you made it all the way to the end thanks for listening to me ramble I feel better :)
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